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Sunday, May 31, 2015

International Conference on Eating Disorders Recap


Juxtaposition of the old and the new in Boston on the last day of the conference; it seems a fitting visual for this post!

International Conference on Eating Disorders: Recap (Really Late Recap, Sorry!)

Note: This was written some time ago and put on the back burner until everyone present had a chance to review it--JD Ouellette

I feel terrible for having waited this long to recap the International Conference of Eating Disorders (ICED) put on by the Academy for Eating Disorders (AED) for all our members, but boy howdy was I beyond exhausted. Plus I walked into a work situation that itself required lots of energy expended. Basically, I was a hot mess for 11 days  after getting home and am really just now back in the swing of things. Amy traveled from Dar Es Salam and also tacked on a visit to her most adorable baby granddaughter and then headed back into the thick of her work and home life.
L-R  1st photo Joan Reiderer, Amy Cunningham, Lisa LaBorde; 2nd photo the FEAST contingent with representation from Australia, New Zealand, Canada and the U.S.A and featuring the incomparable Laura Collins; 3rd photo, Alice Springs, Celia Robicheau, Alyson Earnest, JD Ouellette, Alec Rodney 
As bonding experiences, conferences are amazing. Amy and I had never met “IRL” so that in itself was a treat.  Alec Rodney and Alyson Earnest were there and at various points Celia Robicheau, Alice Springs, and Lisa Epstein were there along with many people from FEAST and parents there independently. We got to go full fangirl on the amazing mom who wrote the first AED Guide to Medical Management of Eating Disorders at dinner one night. As a collective, IEDAction, EatingDisorder Parent Support, The Dirty Laundry Project and F.E.A.S.T. consistently share similar goals and a vision for progress. 

We want physician education and access to evidence-based treatment prioritized as number one. We feel any treatment predicated on or commonly including blaming family dynamics is in opposition to current evidence. We want researchers and clinicians to listen to parents about what we have seen and observed as this is important information to improve treatment outcomes.

For IED specifically, a major reason for investing considerable time and money (Tanzania to Boston for Amy!) in getting to this conference was to show people firsthand who we are and what we are about.

Who we are is a collective of smart, educated parents, clinicians and those affected who have something new to offer this advocacy world. We have fresh energy and fresh ideas plus experiences from other advocacy arenas. We evaluate the status quo with an outsider’s eye while we honor those in this movement on whose shoulders we stand.

What we are about is working on several fronts to change societal perception of eating disorders along with promoting meaningful changes in how and when eating disorders are diagnosed and treated. We are about working collaboratively with other groups as we have done with the National Initiative for Eating Disorders (NIED) in Canada.

We are about providing a space for dialogue and education and looking for any opportunity to have conversations about eating disorders that open minds. We are also, and importantly, about transparency in terms of financial relationships/connections and allowing people to evaluate for themselves versus trusting others to make decisions for the field without engaging all stakeholders.*

We were very well received in general. We had incredible and productive conversations with amazing people, both as individuals and in groups. We forged relationships on which to build further cooperation in advancing our common agenda.

Beginning on a High Note

IED had been invited to attend a leadership meeting on the Tuesday before the conference. I had already purchased my ticket, but Amy was able to make it and thank goodness she did. Her contributions were important and the committee decided to officially accept Cindy Bulik’s 9 Myths (though they will be restated as truths) as the position of the AED. This is very important.

This happened after I wrote this post





Thursday was the official conference beginning and Cindy Bulik shared exciting updates from what they are beginning to learn from the ANGI study. There is some indication the same genes (SNPs?) may mutate one way to cause schizophrenia and another to cause anorexia. Fascinating stuff!

Alec was praised by a fellow conference attendee for his succinct but powerful statement made at the end of the plenary presentation on  “Dissemination and Development of Psychological Treatments in Eating Disorders: Evidence-Based or How to Sell Snake Oil?” The presentation was predicated, humorously and effectively, on Donald Rumsfield’s “Known Knowns” and “Unknown Knowns” and “Unknown Unknowns. “ Alec asked if wasn’t time AED make it a known known that excluding parents should be the exception across all treatment modalities. The answer from incoming AED president Dr. Becker was equivocal, but the audience applause was unequivocal support from many.


To be honest, the rest of Thursday, Friday and most of Saturday was a blur of fascinating sessions and sitting out sessions to hang with very cool people and relationship build and soak up institutional knowledge and coffees and lunches and dinners and drinks and very late nights.

Our core group (Alec, Alyson, Amy and I) divided and conquered on attending sessions and came together regularly at breaks to share and strategize. We hung out with (only) FEAST people quite a bit and were at the FEAST luncheon when Mary Beth Krohel received the FEAST Magic Plate award (it’s a lovely engraved silver plate) for her work (as mentioned above she is the brains and passion behind the AED Medical Guides). A highlight of the trip for me was her ceremonial passing of the baton to us newcomers as we ate lunch. We were lucky to be at dinner when the inspirational June Alexander plated food straight off a Mongolian grill at Fire and Ice.
At the FEAST Booth--ground zero for family empowerment 
While everything we learned was helpful, one of the most important presentations was the panel on having difficult discussions—Dr. Carolyn Becker, a leading prevention researcher and Laura Collins, founder of FEAST, were among those sharing how to have difficult conversations—about building bridges. This was a self-selected group of people who care about listening and evolving and was definitely Alsyon’s highlight experience; the atmosphere was virtually electric with hope. Another much-talked-about session was on exercise and Alec took lots of notes there.
Amy, Alyson, Dr. Hill
Formal and informal meetings of note were held with Dr. Laura Hill (Alyson, Amy, Alec) with GFED (Alec, JD) and with Laura Collins (Alyson, Alec and Amy). A huge disappointment was the last-minute cancellation by Katrina and Kathleen from the Eating Disorder Coalition of a meeting Katrina had made with Amy at the Tuesday Leadership Conference.

We are all very interested in legislative change and would love to work with the EDC and we also need to be fully apprised of the content of what is being lobbied for before committing considerable time and money both to get to D.C. and to work locally with our representatives.** Putting our stamp of approval, both as individuals and organizations, on anything sight unseen won’t happen and for the EDC to respond to our queries with “trust us” has us concerned and puzzled.

We made sure to check out the exhibitors and Amy made some very important connections with people from The Joint Commission and IAEDP—we will update on those when some things firm up. Amy’s wide knowledge base in Public Health and Legislative Advocacy, gleaned through HIV/AIDS work, is a true gift to the movement.

Late Saturday afternoon, the final session, a Think Tank presentation by Dr. Michael Strober of UCLA along with a panel of clinicians came around; having heard Dr. Strober is now known for his progressive views on eating disorder treatment we were all anxious to watch and listen.

The format of the presentation was a case study with various clinicians weighing in on the case Strober presented—a 16-yr old who had been six months in the hospital with no weight gain, came from chaotic family, mom was an alcoholic and grandfather with whom the patient was close recently deceased—and then him sharing what he actually did with this patient.  

When it came time for Dr. Strober to share his resolution he began with sharing this slide: “Some assertions about AN, deemed factual.” I took issue with both the tone of “deemed” and the way the bullet points are framed to make the assertions seem ludicrous.



1. It ‘s a genetic disorder, the environment matters little—the idea that legacies should matter in clinical care, that information –knowledge of a patient’s history—should be sought in an effort to understand how a young life became so disordered is an anachronism.

I have never heard a single person assert such a thing as the above. UCSD, a program that is agnostic as to cause, asked us for a detailed history of her life. They did this not because they presumed something wrong in her background—it’s prudent medical and psychological care to ask these questions.

As to “understanding how a young life became so disordered,” it happened in our house when anorexia developed. This was not a chicken-egg situation for us or many others I know—the disordered life was a result of the eating disorder.

2. What patients espouse lacks authenticity; it is a starvation induced screaming madness; it should be dismissed; it resolves with refeeding.

Again—huge leap from “understand that the malnourished brain can’t think clearly and anorexia often presents as a psychosis replete with voices/thoughts and the inability to understand one is ill” to “dismiss the patient’s voice.”

3. Psychotherapy must await weight restoration; refeeding is an essential predicate for psychotherapy.

Very broad and not what I’ve seen in practice at all. Prioritizing refeeding, weight gain and full, ongoing nutrition yes. Forget any therapy until w/r? That I have not seen as common.  From personal experience my daughter didn’t get much out of any therapies until she was well on her way to w/r, but she still was physically present for sessions—meaning she mentally present for the psychotherapy at the earliest point at which it began to have value.

4. There is a gold standard treatment for our young patients.

Gold standard overstates it a bit (as intended), but yes there is. Currently FBT produces the best outcomes for adolescents with anorexia. It doesn’t help everyone, but it does help the greatest number of people and so should be presented to realistically presented to families as an option and with that information. 

What did Dr. Strober do with this you patient to get her on the road to recovery? I can’t remember everything  (what with the blood whooshing in my ears after I heard these two statements he made) and his words are paraphrased here:

·      He listened to the patient because all anorexia derives from a patient having not been heard by those around him/her.
·      He something something because all anorexia is a maladaptive coping mechanism for the patient.

My jaw remained on the floor until Laura Collins, at the mic, spoke in a clipped and measured words something to the effect of “I cannot believe this. I am upset. Others are upset. People have walked out.”
I have a happy face; this is not it. 
Having recovered my faculties, I also took the mic and Dr. Strober and I engaged in a debate of sorts; one in which I was treated dismissively and condescendingly (and I believe I was a proxy for parents in general) and told I misunderstood what he was saying. Being of a thick hide and a temperament suited to fighting back instead of sitting down, and knowing that as a parent I am given more latitude to confront a man of his stature and position, I pushed back.

I pushed back with my daughter’s story and with other stories I have heard from all of you. Of patients being forced to cast about for a plausible underlying cause to please a clinician sure there must be one in all cases. Of parents asked to admit to a sick child’s version of events that is heavily ED-filtered and remembered differently by all other parties present. Of families that did have dysfunction who got the help they needed—not because they caused their child’s illness, but because they did what it took to support recovery and save their child’s life.

Of how early intervention and treatment that is agnostic to cause and empowers parents to keep their children’s brains in a place where they can do work needed for recovery—and that work varies from person to person.  Of how empowered and educated parents weave safety nets that keep their children in recovery or catch them quickly if they fall.

The audience reaction was gratifying in the extreme. I was heard which means WE were heard. It was a special moment for me to have Laura Collins, who was, not that long ago, the only parent at ICED and who was not welcomed then nor for some time.

The follow up to our lengthy back and forth (and I have no illusions that Dr. Strober listened to what I said at all—in fact I would bet he did not based on demeanor) was the doctor shown behind me who said simply, “I treat patients with leukemia; I don’t need to know how they got it to treat them.”

Closing comments were made by local mother Alice Springs who shared the difficulties, even in a city the size of Boston, with getting a diagnosis and access to high-quality, evidence-based treatment and that it was the perseverance of herself and her husband with regard to refeeding and continued full nutrition that shaped her daughter’s initial and continued recovery.

The time after that session ended and before our core group left the fantastic party for a cheaper place to enjoy a cocktail ($10 for a glass of wine?!) and a chance to process and bond with each other was truly amazing.

Several clinicians and others reached out to me and to Alec, Alyson, Celia and other parents to apologize for the aforementioned condescension and dismissiveness, a couple apologized for leaving it to a parent to press their colleague about both the content and delivery of Dr. Strober. A lovely Physician’s Assistant from Texas stopped me en route to the restroom and told me what she heard had changed the way she will practice medicine. I had a mutually respectful dialogue with a couple recovered clinicians and asked them to consider that possibly instead of personal trauma being viewed as causal, viewing it as a complicating factor could allow for a synthesis of the biological and psychological. Pondering happened on all sides.

The cherry on top of the sundae of all the positive feedback for parents was when Dr. Becker tracked me down during the festivities to assure me changes were coming and a repeat of our exchange would not happen again on her watch.

One advantage to waiting to write a recap is the chance to let some of the energy and magic of the experience settle so one can see what was really learned and accomplished. The advantage of hindsight tempers only slightly the positivity with which I reflect back. It feels to me we are standing on the precipice of real change that will impact and revolutionize the treatment of eating disorders.

Who are we and what are we about? We are Full Metal Apron fighters – for our kids, for ourselves, for our patients and for real change that supports full recovery and less time spent sick.

To the AED, the group responsible for this incredible opportunity and for bringing together and honoring the voices of all stakeholders, we say thank you and see you in San Francisco next year!



*Relevant citation: Patient Advocacy Organizations: Institutional Conflicts of Interest, Trust and Trustworthiness. We at IED believe that the duty to fully disclose possible conflicts of interest is not limited to researchers and clinicians, but should apply to all advocates and advocacy organizations as well. 

**Shortly after this was written, this press release highlighted what is in the Anna Westin Act and this is the pre-lobby briefing. Thanks so much to the EDC for sharing the video. 

















Sunday, April 26, 2015

Dear ICED: I wish I knew - really knew - that this disease all along wanted only one thing - my son’s life

Eating Disorders are brain-based, biological illnesses with a strong genetic component and a psychosocial influence. They are not disorders of choice, vanity or family dysfunction. As with autism and schizophrenia, we don't know everything, but we do know we were wrong about a lot for a very long time. Help us challenge stigma and fight for resource parity for these deadly disorders!
Dear ICED: I wish I knew - really knew - that this disease all along wanted only one thing - my son’s life
Pam Dillard
LaJolla, California, USA
As I look back on our experience and ask “what would I like to have seen play out differently", it would be the following:
1.  I wish we didn’t have to go through that shock and awe of struggling with what it means that our son had an eating disorder.  When I was reading about the disease initially, pretty much everything I could get my hands on was related to girls and women.  The ED looked so different on our son.   He did not throw any tantrums, he didn’t have melt downs at dinner, there was no food flying in the kitchen.  There was only quiet compliance on the surface while the lies worked craftily to allow his ED to completely take control of him.  
2.  I wish I understood immediately how VITAL the right treatment team is for recovery. 
3.  I wish I understood how helpful medications could be to quiet his anxiety.
4.  I wish teachers and nurses had more of a working knowledge about EDs. 
5.  I wish we didn’t have the constant stress of “will my insurance company” allow another “X” amount of time in treatment?  I was appalled at one point when we were denied coverage for IOP therapy.  At that point in time, we had incurred approximately hundreds of thousands of medical bills for medical treatment.  I was astonished our insurance company could be so short sited about ongoing IOP and further the Medical Director doing the review had no experience with EDs. 
6.  Most importantly, I wish I knew - really knew - that this disease all along wanted only one thing - my son’s life.  Once we understood this, that knowledge truly helped me and my husband sort through the lies and see how severely and savagely this disease attacked our son.
April 10, 2015
Today marks one year since our son was discharged from the Eating Recovery Center in CO.   He has shown so much progress since that day; maintaining a healthy weight, making friends, adjusting to a new school, and has become genuinely a happy kid!  Our lives for the three years prior were filled with chaos, heartbreak, pain, anguish and doubt.  It included doubt that our “new normal” would ever look like anything outside of helping our son survive.  Doubt that the poor decisions made in the process of trying to help him wouldn’t be erased.  Doubt that he would ever make it.  

Our son was diagnosed with an eating disorder when he was 13.  We had noticed some differences in him in the months prior - extreme rigidity about food, wearing multiple layers of clothing, isolating, negative attitude about sports.  We were fortunate that his pediatrician saw the symptoms and immediately referred him to the UCSD Eating Disorders Treatment Center in La Jolla. It was there that we found he had an eating disorder, and also was so depleted he had to be admitted to the hospital  His resting heart rate was in the 20s.  We were shocked.

We had never heard of anorexia affecting men or boys, or that people are genetically predisposed to it.  We also realized during our first hospitalization that not only did I have an aunt who suffered from the disease, but also a male cousin. And the questions about our parenting and whether we could have caught this sooner loomed.  Of course, we could have caught it sooner, we saw the signs, but we didn’t nonetheless.

That was the first of five hospitalizations over the course of 2 1/2 years.  It was during his last hospitalization that we were instructed to have him admitted to a residential facility.  In fact, we were not permitted to even take him home. Our son’s ED had shown so much determination, and manifested itself in so many ways, that the family based treatment we’d been embracing was no longer enough.  My husband and I are forever grateful for that push. 

I’m convinced that even though our journey has been painful, exhausting, and frustrating, we are fortunate on so many levels.  We have the luxury of living within driving distance of a world class eating disorders treatment facility (UCSD); we have a Children’s hospital (Rady Children’s Hospital) with an entire wing dedicated to treating young people with this disease.  We have therapists who have experience with eating disorders, Family based treatment, DBT, and we had people around us who wanted to see our son live.  

Even though those professionals were able to help us help our son, society still does not recognize freely that this insidious disease affects men and boys.  Some of the feedback we heard from people around us included:

“What do you mean, you have an eating disorder?  That’s a girl disease!”  “Are you gay?”

It wasn’t insulting enough that our son was labelled “anorexic”, but somehow his disease drew an immediate conclusion regarding his sexuality!  Our society doesn’t have the experience or knowledge that eating disorders are agnostic regarding the gender of its victims!  It was nonetheless heartbreaking.   And it catapulted us into a period of extreme privacy because of the shame we drew from those reactions.  
There is no shame!  We need to be able to speak about this, educate people, understand the struggles of a male with an ED may look different, but they are just as severe and potentially fatal.


The author is Pamela Dillard,  La Jolla, CA  US, Mom and a Sales Director at an insurance company

Saturday, April 25, 2015

Dear ICED: My daughter just disappeared into herself



Eating Disorders are brain-based, biological illnesses with a strong genetic component and a psychosocial influence. They are not disorders of choice, vanity or family dysfunction. As with autism and schizophrenia, we don't know everything, but we do know we were wrong about a lot for a very long time. Help us challenge stigma and fight for resource parity for these deadly disorders!


Dear ICED:  My daughter just disappeared into herself
By: Kim
NSW, Australia

My daughter started down the path to anorexia nervosa sometime mid-late 2009. I can say that now with hindsight and being able to recognize the symptoms. Compulsive, obsessive, perfectionism, almost hysterical outbreaks if something didn’t suit her, no desserts.  Something building but not showing itself in any real external way. You could have labelled it teenager behavior, highly strung or overly sensitive. She was 14, turning 15 in December of 2009, she is now 20.

At the beginning of 2010 she started to make changes to her diet. This is what first alerted me that something wasn’t right. We already ate healthy and ate as a family. She wanted to eat healthier, questioned what was in each food, refused all ‘junk’ foods. There was a pattern of foods questioned for health purposes suddenly disappearing off her diet even if the food was a ‘good one’. At first she was relatively calm, but as weeks progressed she would react over-the-top if any of the ‘forbidden’ foods were offered.

I first put her on the scales at home mid March and she had lost, but not a huge loss, not something to really worry about. But the intensity and difference in her was more than enough to say something was different.

By the end of April, she stepped up the process. All carbohydrates, fried food and sugar were now not allowed. Lunches were now only a yoghurt and fruit. Her weight by the end of April was now down more. I was now pushing her to eat, trying to break through what was going on. She was getting depressed, had outbursts of anger, and if angry refused to eat. It was like my daughter was disappearing into another parallel. She was physically present, sometimes seemingly herself, functioned at school and at home, but mentally and emotionally lived in another world.

Mid May she let slip her last period was in March. Her food portions were slowly getting smaller. The June long weekend was the crunch point. She was very down, ate very slowly and little. We were in the doctor surgery on the Tuesday afternoon. Her depressive state was also a concern. Thankfully the doctor scheduled weekly visits, I am very grateful he didn’t write Sophie off as a ‘teenage thing’. His notes prove he diagnosed Anorexia then.

June was mainly keeping Sophie busy on weekends as she was very depressed, enough to be suicidal. We had the doctor’s clinic emergency phone number on speed dial. She was angry, aggressive, unapproachable. Other times she would just cry and sob in your arms. She was totally lost. Her eating patterns become more rigid, portions smaller, there was real fear in her eyes and actions when ‘bad’ foods were given to her. And she just couldn’t eat them, was unable to even try. She would collapse into tears. Her weight plateaued underweight for a bit, then began the slide down that couldn’t be stopped. We had a counsellor for a while, but after a month she gave up. Said she didn’t know what to do and couldn’t reach Sophie. We were given a referral to a child psychiatrist but her appointments were so booked, we couldn’t get one until September. The doctor was the only lifeline we had in trying to save Sophie.

In July we went away for two weeks (with emergency plans in place), it was the worst holiday we ever had. Breakfast and lunch were now apples, dinner was a small serve of what we had, with a major amount of coaxing to eat. She didn’t drink anything except a glass of milk. She was very cold all the time, was slightly yellow, painfully thin. Her breath was sour, old people kind of smell. Her hair was beginning to fall out. When we got back she stopped eating completely. A glass of milk a day was all she was having. And we still could not admit her to hospital, as she was not the required low weight to do so. Her medical obs of blood pressure, temp and heart rate were also not low enough for admittance. Trying to force her to eat, and be the food police just didn’t work. Sophie refused to eat, refused to do anything. She would sit so close to the fire to keep warm. She now had the fine hair covering on several parts of her body. She smelt, a decaying, old horrible smell. It was so confronting. I used to be terrified to go up in the mornings to wake her, in case she was no longer with us. When sitting at the table with us, she would just lie her head down on her arms and just lie there. There wasn’t enough energy or interest to do anything more. But still she kept up her schooling with an intensive obsession.

In August, my daughter just disappeared into herself. No emotion, no fear, no anger, just a bare existence. Didn’t talk to anyone. She must have been in a lot of physical pain too but nothing registered across her face or emotions. Finally in mid August her medical obs failed. Her weight, temp and heart rate were low enough to cause her harm, and her blood pressure was dropping significantly. Finally we could get into hospital to save her. She barely raised a whimper when she was taken for admission. She seemed to be more content to go into hospital despite what that may bring, rather than she or us trying to save her. Her weight was now about significantly underweight, her temp was down to almost 35 and her heart rate in the daytime was in the low 40’s. In hospital we discover her night heart rate was getting down to 38 or lower. There were no beds in ICU so the children’s ward monitored her in their intensive care bed, pumped her with electrolytes, potassium, fluid, and didn’t give her a choice of eating by mouth, it was too late. Sophie was given a NG feed and a list of rules to abide by so she wouldn’t use any energy she didn’t need to.

For the next 8 weeks this where she stayed. The hospital experience didn’t heal the anorexia, it didn’t make her decide to recover. It just saved her medically. She collected a team to work with her once she left hospital. The anorexia changed and adapted to the new circumstances. It developed a rigid diet that Sophie would only eat for the next year. It developed new coping patterns, become physically and verbally aggressive. It controlled Sophie entirely, barely let my daughter come out and be seen. We had a brief month after hospital when Sophie was happy and seemed to be on the mend. Then the anorexia took over and buried her again. In 6 months she was back in hospital for another 9 weeks. And after 4 months back in hospital again for another week. This was her turning point, when she decided enough was enough and it was time to fight back. In her own words, it was like living in a horrible nightmare and she did not want to keep living that anymore.

From a treatment point of view, we used a very broken down form of the Maudsley Approach. FBT didn’t work great for our family dynamics and Sophie could not move from her safe foods. She ate the amount given, very very occasionally tried a new food but that was as far as we could get her. I prepared all foods and kept her out of the kitchen. After the 3 hospital admission, this is when she finally decided to widen her diet. It took a couple of years though to slowly introduce new foods and get her to be able to eat them regularly. Now she can intuitively eat or be flexible in her eating habits. It takes getting to full recovery to achieve this step though.

She had a team of five that were her support/medical team outside of hospital. It was after second admission that this team with the new dietitian really began to strongly hold Sophie and support her. She learned that they would not let her fall and would follow her to the end to keep her safe. We had a paediatrician, GP, psychiatrist, psychologist and dietitian. Each one as important as the other and all working together and in constant contact. The psychiatrist was the over arching lead.

From a family point of view, we all lived and had anorexia too. It is never just the person who has the illness that suffers. You all do. Our job was to get her to treatment, support her and to learn how the environment around Sophie was affecting her and what needed to change. We had to learn ourselves how to survive the stresses (hell) of the eating disorder, how to relate to it and to work against it. We had to treat our daughter on the front-line of combat to keep her safe and alive, until she was ready and able to take over the task herself and to always, always stay alert. It is still a learning curve, each phase of recovery requires new knowledge and understanding of just how an eating disorder lives, breathes and constantly re-adapts itself so it can survive.

It took her 5.5 years from start to finish to be pronounced fully recovered. The hope is this that recovery is real and attainable. But it’s not easy and treatment and support matter a great deal in this journey. Early diagnosis and intervention are critical, sticking with therapy long after weight is gained, being aware and putting in safe guards around daily life and routines are all key points for success. Learning what other comorbids and illness you may have also affect the journey to recover and how to stay recovered. Anxiety, OCD, depression, along with high functioning aspergers are my daughter’s lot in life. Learning to manage these successfully means slipping back into anorexia is avoided.

One day I hope my daughter will talk about it and understand what led her there and why. For now she is still blocking that part and doesn’t want to share her journey with anyone. It is still too raw, too frightening, too close.

Dear ICED: Dying, Waiting in Ontario

Eating Disorders are brain-based, biological illnesses with a strong genetic component and a psychosocial influence. They are not disorders of choice, vanity or family dysfunction. As with autism and schizophrenia, we don't know everything, but we do know we were wrong about a lot for a very long time. Help us challenge stigma and fight for resource parity for these deadly disorders!

Dying, Waiting in Ontario
Suze Nelson
Peterborough, Ontario, Canada

We live in Ontario, Canada, where much to our shock when my daughter was diagnosed with AN at 19, we quickly learned that our provincial health care would not cover treatment costs, unless of course she was DYING in hospital. Canada falsely prides itself on universal health care; no such healthcare exists for eating disorders. ED treatment here is 100% two-tiered – if you have funds, you can receive treatment. If not, tough luck. Your child dies.
Disgusted and enraged doesn`t begin to cover my feelings on this. We were absolutely panicked and terrified that she would not survive due to our lack of finances. 

We immediately launched a successful fundraising campaign drawing media attention and support worldwide. This allowed us to finally start the application process by getting her name on the waiting list at a well known ED treatment facility here in Ontario. Between diagnosis and admission several very scary months went by. Let me be clear - the success of our fundraising campaign campaign was the ONLY REASON SHE RECEIVED TREATMENT.  Sufferers in Ontario DIE WAITING for treatment.

My daughter completed one full 12 week inpatient program at this centre and was then discharged to live on her own, having no aftercare or followup plan in place. She relapsed soon after discharge and was readmitted for another round. Again, no aftercare or follow up upon release. One year later, a major relapse and a five month inpatient program at same centre. This time my daughter created her own supports and plan for discharge.

At no time during these three admissions over 2 years at this treatment facility was our family welcomed, educated or included in my daughter`s treatment or recovery plan, let alone informed of her medical condition. As a family we have had no DBT, no FBT but one hell of a lot of BS and WTF.  Current research demonstrates that family involvement and support is a key element to sustained recovery.

My girl is now 24, fighting for full recovery, living with best friend and her cat. 

Suze Nelson is a single mum of three strong and beautiful children and a tenacious EDucator/activist living in Peterborough, Ontario 

Friday, April 24, 2015

Dear ICED: "We need change NOW"

Eating Disorders are brain-based, biological illnesses with a strong genetic component and a psychosocial influence. They are not disorders of choice, vanity or family dysfunction. As with autism and schizophrenia, we don't know everything, but we do know we were wrong about a lot for a very long time. Help us challenge stigma and fight for resource parity for these deadly disorders!

Jen’s experience
East Sussex, UK


My daughter was diagnosed with Anorexia Nervosa in March 2007. She was just 14. Turns out she also had depression, which to my shame I hadn’t realised. We’d moved home the previous year as her dad and I had split up; I’d moved closer to work and my family. It made sense to move, but it meant that she and her younger brother had to change schools. I knew her brother would be fine, but my daughter was always anxious as a child and found the change hard. Now I know that anxiety and hyper-sensitivity can be a sign of being predisposed to an eating disorder (ED). To my knowledge, no-one in my family ever had an ED.


We were referred to CAMHS (Child & Adolescent Mental Health Services) and were seen within a few weeks. We were asked about diet, family dynamics, recent events etc. I was told to feed her three meals and three snacks a day. But these professionals didn’t have the resources or the knowledge to tell me how to re-feed my daughter. Mealtimes were a battleground. If only I knew then what I know now, nine years later. At one stage they sent a nurse round to help, but all she did was get cross with my daughter and told her she was ungrateful for not eating the food I’d cooked. I instinctively knew that was the wrong approach! I was right in that, at least.


Many CAMHS and Adult Services still don’t provide up to date ED treatments. In fact, one particularly difficult female clinician, who was assigned to my daughter when she was 20, actually said to me a couple of years ago on my questioning: “This is how we have always done it, since the 1970’s.” This old-school approach needs to end!


Resources in mental health services are desperately needed in general, but more specifically we need:


    • more ED hospitals/beds
    • more and better qualified staff
    • vastly improved community care
    • more psychological therapists for both in-patient and community care
    • access to latest research and treatment methods
    • law changes to allow over 18’s suffering with ED’s to remain under parents’ care


Currently in UK, as soon as you hit 18 the parents are rarely consulted and are frequently told to back off. The UK’s legal system means that an 18 year old can leave home and, if deemed ill enough, are entitled to Disability Benefits, rent payments to a certain level and just enough money to live off. All this does is provide a ‘safe’ bubble that allows them to isolate further into their illness, unless the sufferer wants to recover and works with their treatment team. If not – and many sufferers, my daughter included, finds it too hard to eat what their bodies need when alone – they face a miserable life of purgatory. If they even survive.


We need change NOW!

Dear ICED: Getting Family Based Treatment for Eating Disorders Early Can Save Lives!

Eating Disorders are brain-based, biological illnesses with a strong genetic component and a psychosocial influence. They are not disorders of choice, vanity or family dysfunction. As with autism and schizophrenia, we don't know everything, but we do know we were wrong about a lot for a very long time. Help us challenge stigma and fight for resource parity for these deadly disorders!
Nell Justice
Las Vegas, Nevada, USA


Getting Family Based Treatment for Eating Disorders Early Can Save Lives!



In 2012 my youngest child was diagnosed with Anorexia Nervosa.  She was 16. She was a competitive
soccer player, top of her game. She quit soccer, couldn't eat. I thought she was just depressed because of quitting. She complained of feeling bloated and she started having anxiety attacks and couldn't eat. She had lost 17 pounds in a very short time. She was small to begin with.


I had no idea what was happening, she was losing weight and couldn't eat. I took her to the
pediatrician where he diagnosed her with Anorexia Nervosa. He explained that he did not handle
patients with AN but gave me the name of a psychiatrist, told me to read the book, Eating With Your
Anorexic by Laura Collins. I was also advised to go to UCSD if the psychiatrist didn't work out.
On my own I found, Around the Dinner Table (FEAST).  Here I learned about family based therapy. We found the only therapist that did FBT in our state of Nevada and took her there.


With this evidence-based approach FBT, group therapy and DBT skills, my daughter is now in
recovery. She continues to go to therapy every 2 months just to stay on top of things.  My daughter remembers feeling fat at age 4. She remembers restricting at age 11. I never knew any symptoms of eating disorders. I knew that she was a perfectionist and had OCD. I didn't know those were personality traits that are common in a person who has a brain wired to develop an ED. Watching a child roll around in a fetal position calling themselves a fat pig and shaking to put a fork of food to their mouths is horrible! Watching them starve because they just can't eat is beyond painful.


Eating Disorders are a mental illness! A Brain disorder!


More can and should be done to help those who suffer! More research, more education, more evidence-based treatment and more insurance coverage! Families should not have to go bankrupt to get medical care for their dying loved one!  I will never stop trying to educate others, it could save a life!



Nell Justice, Las Vegas Nevada


PS. The psychiatrists knew NOTHING about eating disorders and she didn't accept insurance. First


visit was $500 dollars and then $300 dollars an hour! Parents are desperate to get help and often go


broke trying to find it!